Sexual education in the family

When do you bring up the topic of sex to your children? How do you talk to your children about sex? What should you tell them is the purpose of sex? What things should be spoken of from the Bible? What happens if you don’t bring up sex to children?

When Do You Bring up the Topic of Sex to Your Children?

You really bring up sex when you treat your wife or husband in a loving way. When a relation between the father and mother is a loving, caring, and affectionate one, then you have already brought up sex in one way. Children will learn to treat the opposite sex the way that they see their father or mother treated. They will see this as normal and their expectations of the opposite sex will be primarily based upon the relationship that they see between their father and mother. It has been said that children can not hear what you say to them because what you are doing is drowning it out. Actions do speak louder than words, so this important reminder for all parents should be; they are watching, they are learning and more is caught than taught.

When parents first bring up the topic of sex they might bring up an example of the birds and the bees. The fact is that using the animal kingdom is a great way to bring up the subject. You could note that the young birds are best taken care of by parent birds. They provide food, shelter, and protection for the young nestlings. Now if there were not two to care for the young, then the young birds might starve, or have no shelter, or not be protected. Birds generally mate for life and they do not have young by themselves. It takes two to raise the nestlings. It is not a job for a lone, single bird to do.
The topic of sex is therefore brought up as soon as possible so that the embarrassment is taken out of the topic. Your children should have a safe-zone feeling where they can bring up anything or ask any question of their parents. Parents should not look or act uncomfortable when sex is brought up and it will definitely come up with all the media emphasis on it today. No question should be rejected or treated as unimportant. Parents would much rather have their children come to them about such things than to learn it from other children or from the street.
Here should be the time to discuss the proper touching and where certain areas of their body are private even from mommy and daddy. Children should have a clear understanding of what is permissible and what is not and to always have no fear to come to them if they feel uncomfortable about an occurrence where they were touched in a “private” area.

How Do you Talk To Your Children About Sex?

How to talk to children about sex is that it is only for adults that are married. It is bad for them to expose themselves or to have anyone or touch anyone in a private area. Sex is a good thing that is a gift from God and it is only for daddies and mommies. Tell them that God does not want them to have any relations where they feel it is not right. If it doesn’t feel right to them, then it very well may be wrong. They should feel free to talk to their parents at anytime about anything or if they have any questions.
Sex should be something that is only for those who are married and it is always between adults. No children, young adults, or even older adults are supposed to be touching or be touched or to see or be seen by anyone else unless they are married; and only then by the person that they are married to. When my children were young, I always accompanied them to visits to the pediatrician. If any pediatrician forbids me or my wife from being present for any procedure or examination, we would find another pediatrician.

So talking about sex being a good thing and how children are born is a necessary part of growing up. But it is always, and there are no exceptions, between a married man and woman. You can tell them that without sex, they would not have been born. Sex is for married couples only and God made sex. But He did not make it for anyone that was not married and He made it only for men and women who were married. Even sex between men and sex between women is something you can tell them that God does not approve of and it hurts the body.

What Should You Tell Them is the Purpose of Sex?

Some of this was discussed in the previous section. Sex is for the purpose of having children borne and that sex is purposely intended for mommies and daddies that are married to each other. Sex is a special thing and it should never, ever be shared outside of marriage. Tell them that someday, when they get married, they will have children of your own. This is the only time that God allows sex. It is a special thing that God made for married people. It was never meant for anyone that is not married and it can harm people in a way that their lives may never be the same.